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If a policeman could only yell insults at you and shake his fist at you in protest of you speeding, how effective would the policeman be? Disciplinary action influences behavior; anger does not.

Dr. James Dobson says, "Ultimately, the key to competent parenthood is in being able to get behind the eyes of your child, seeing what he sees and feeling what he feels. When he is lonely, he needs your company. When he is defiant, he needs your help in controlling his impulses. When he is afraid, he needs the security of your embrace. When he is curious, he needs your patient instruction. When he is happy, he needs to share his laughter and joy with those he loves. Thus, the parent who intuitively comprehends his child's feelings is in a position to respond appropriately and meet the needs that are apparent. And at this point, raising healthy children becomes a highly developed art, requiring the greatest wisdom, patience, devotion and love that God has given to us."


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On the upside of things, strong-willed children generally become highly motivated, successful adults if they have been taught the skills and self-control needed to contain themselves. They usually have high-self esteem, high energy, and extreme intelligence. If they have the skills to contain their own greatness they can let it shine when and where appropriate. Keeping this in mind, try not to brow beat your children into submission. Instead, lovingly show them how to control emotions and how to properly assert themselves.